I’ve started to notice more people adding a “JUST” in front of “you” since I am single. Since yesterday was Singles Awareness Day (it’s true — look it up — there really is a day for everything) I thought it was time to shed a little light on being single.
The hearing “JUST you” was especially true a few months back when I was going through a massive downsize, as well as purchasing and remodeling a house. It wasn’t only the construction/sales people, it was often my friends. I was starting to feel like since it was “just” me I was expected to live in a trailer or tent. No point in decorating since it was “just” me who would see it. I thought about the fact that couples share a bed and eat at the same table, so how much less space does a single person really need?
In any case, what I find even more alarming is my single friends taking on that attitude. They don’t make themselves a nice dinner because it is “just” them, they won’t go to a restaurant since it is “just” them…and what really hits me hard is they won’t even open a bottle of wine since it is “just” them. They are waiting to have someone over to open a bottle of wine they really like.
Cooking for One
I’ve been single most of my life and I love to cook. As much as I enjoy entertaining, I certainly don’t wait to have guests over to make myself a nice meal.
The excuse I hear is that it is hard to cook for just one. Really? Cooking for one or cooking for a full family is about the same amount of work. Sure there are things like a standing rib roast, a twenty-pound turkey and a huge rack of ribs that may be a challenge for a single person to devour; however, there are so many delicious foods that come in small sizes. Treat yourself to a lobster tail, scallops, fillet mignon — given the price of the ingredients you should be celebrating being single and not having to feed a bunch of people!
Prior to living in the Central Coast, I was an executive for a hightech company and spent a huge amount of time travelling for business. There was often no choice but to dine alone and I have to say I not only got use to dining alone, I actually enjoyed it. It was really nice to have some alone time after having to be “on” all day wowing business partners and clients.
I still often head to a restaurant by myself either because I am in town running errands and find myself hungry, or I am rewarding myself for achieving some form of a goal (could be as simple as putting in a good day’s work for a client).
You will certainly find places where they will greet you with a “just you for dinner?” or “only one tonight?”. The really funny part is watching them scan the almost empty restaurant trying to figure out where to seat you.
Luckily in Paso there are so many “single friendly” places. You shouldn’t think twice about heading out on your own. Here are three of my go to places.
Sushi is an easy thing to have on your own and in Paso there are several good options. My hands down favorite is Goshi’s. Located just a little down from the train station, you are sure to get fresh fish, traditional Japanese food, and excellent, very polite service. They have never been surprised that I am popping in for sushi on my own. Pull up a seat at the bar and enjoy!
I love everything about The Hatch. Located on 13th Street, just a little west of Pine Street, this is a great stop if you find yourself downtown. The welcome I receive when I walk in, regardless if the place is empty (only really happens right when they opening) or packed, makes me glad I stopped in. They always find a place for me and the food and service are excellent.
This is a great place for a cocktail. The menu always has an interesting selection of very creative cocktails and if you are in the mood for something a little different, I find the bartenders are very willing to whip something up if you give them a few hints of what you are in the mood for that afternoon or evening.
Jeffry’s Wine Country BBQ
An excellent addition to downtown Paso, you will find Jeffry’s Wine Country BBQ in the alley between Pine and Park Street. This is a local’s hangout and everyone is greeted like long lost friends. When I am in the mood for comfort food this is my go to place. Jeffry smokes meat, makes award winning mac & cheese, dishes up an awesome plate of nachos, and don’t even get me started on his paella.
This is also a good location for a glass of wine (or beer if that is your preference). Although, if you are really in the mood to eat alone, it is sometimes a challenge because if you are a local chances are you will run into a friend or two!
I can’t even believe in Paso Robles Wine Country there are people who won’t open a bottle on their own. If you bought it on your own, or someone gave you a bottle as a special gift, you are worthy of having a glass of wine or two even if you don’t have a drinking buddy. Forget the guilt, pop the cork. Head to your cellar (or closet or where ever you stash your wine) and pick something YOU want to drink.
Don’t give me the crap about it going bad. A bottle of pretty much any wine is good for 2, maybe 3, days with just the cork shoved back in the bottle. If you can’t consume the bottle in that time, there are vacuum sealers, nitrogen cylinders, and a whole host of different gadgets to keep your wine fresh. If you want to have wine without even opening the bottle, get a Coravin.
It’s time to ditch the “JUST”. Take care of you, spoil you and enjoy being single. The first thing to check off your list is YOU!